soul speak

how to work WITH your inner critic

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do you find that your inner critic shows up the most when you are stressed to the max?

I know with certainty that lady IC picks that exact moment to show up, but the problem is, I still need to get some work done. 

she's got some serious power that one, and SHE KNOWS IT too.  she can start in on those regular patterns of self-doubt and before you know it you're a slip slide away from overwhelm. 

is this you too?

she knows exactly how to get you to back down and one of her faves is to use the old "who do you think you are" ploy.  it's at that point that, despite the reasoning, the why's of any given situation, you tend to give in cause you know....she's won, again.  

then you might start down this road instead....

  • "the nerve of me thinking I can attempt this gargantuan { not really but that's how she makes it out to be } task...."
  • "the nerve of me thinking I can ask for what I need.
  • "the flipping nerve of me thinking I deserve anything good. 

You can choose to continue down the same road road with your inner critic and end up at the same place...nowhere, and still stuck.

...but I have a better solution.

take a listen to the latest minisode of Soul Speak with Grace where I give a a few suggestions on how to deal more effectively with YOUR inner critic.

 
 

remember, don't forget to keep journaling your heartwords. 

Take care,

Grace

 

p.s.  If, after watching the video, your finding that you need help sorting through things in your life in a deeper way to help uncover your whys, let's talk and find out just what your inner critic is so worked up about. Schedule your call here.

Stepping up to the plate and swinging

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In any given moment we have 2 choices ...to step forward into growth, or back into safety ~ Abraham Maslow

in one of my coach training sessions recently where I was the client I got some serious clarity around something that has been an ongoing issue for me for a while, one that you've heard me talk about here on the blog.

....shining my light.  I have struggled with this for a long as I can remember.

now don't get me wrong, I WANT to be out there, to step up to the plate and swing and hit the hell outta that ball. and I mean an outta-the-ball-park kinda swing.  but what stops me every single time is that same onerous thing that hangs me up every time....shining my light.

my coach asked me a question and, after a little pondering, it felt like a ton of bricks had fallen on my head. thunk!  the shining my light thing is not present in Grace, the person who lives her life every day, solid in knowing who she is.

she fricking rocks the light!  

she is very comfortable shining as bright as she can, at any time.  this issue only comes into play these days when she, when I put on my Grace in business hat.

duh!  that was such a revelation to me.  the 2 Grace's are in so very different realms.  

now granted, I've worked on myself  { and my self confidence } a lot over the last 20+ years, so much so that being the center of attention and doing my thang just doesn't bother me anymore. { phew!  that's good to know cause boy was I a wallflower }.

what I didn't know, until i had that discussion with my coach last week, was that there were 2 parts of me.  I truly thought they were one and the same.  that the confident, authentic me was the same person I was in business.

now don't get me wrong, being authentic and real in business are personal core values I bring to the table every day.

what I came away with from that session is that business Grace sometimes most times avoids the light.  what I also know is that business Grace has gotta step up to the damn plate and just swing.

you ever just get so tired of the battle waging inside of you that you just wanna say, eff it...gimme the bat and let me just take a swing?

yup, that's how I'm feeling right about now.  because sometimes that's what the moment calls for.

enough bullshitting around, enough studying and researching and making everything perfect so the outcome could be perfect as well.  

STEP UP TO THE PLATE....and just swing already!

stop waiting for the ultimate time, the right circumstances, getting all the fricking ducks in a row only to find out one is missing and then wanting to hide out some more { this one is so me }

do it!  swing.

...let go of not knowing the outcome.

...let go of wanting perfection { it's overrated ya know }.

...let go of wishing and wanting and never doing.

...let go of the rumble deep down inside that happens every time you think about setting foot outside your comfort zone 

...let go of the doubt and the anxiety

...let go of the thoughts of embarrassment of IT not happening { or IT happening and failing ....yeh, that one too }

...let go of control { this one is H a r d }

it's all good. you know why? cause you can have a do over.

heck, you can have as many do overs as you like...it's your baby, your thing to birth, your thing to bring light to, your turn to shine.

SHINE baby, shine.

cause that's what biz Grace is going to do.  watch me glow. 

remember, you got this. { no really, you do }

take care,

Grace


p.s. the next Soul Speak with Grace minisode that also talks about this subject is up. Check it out here.

did you know....

that in order to help you swing the heck outta that bat you'll need to bring on the SELF love?  yup, you do. 

for a limited time i'll be offering to all JOY Love Tribe members a 25% discount on my SELF Love Kit and it's companion e-course, 5 Days of SELF-Love.  the course is a beautiful process to help you turn some Love inward { with compassion } so you can step up and swing!

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Courage to release the familiar and embrace the new

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It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is not meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and the exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power ~ Andy Cohen

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...in change there is power.

mmmmh.....yes.

in yesterday's minisode of Soul Speak with Grace i talk about paying attention and course correcting, and how in order to manifest that change we first need to see, then do.  that means paying attention to what's going on in you and around you, then course correct when needed.

 
 

as i mention in the video, one of my favourite ways to bring in a new season is to check in on my WOTY.  this year my word of the year is "and..." such a simple word but I think it speaks volumes for my life in 2017.  but you might be asking right about now.....

what does my WOTY have to do with paying attention and course correcting?

in order to course correct one needs to pay attention to where you are.  as well, you need to have some sort of inkling of where you want to be.

my WOTY does that for me and it's why i constantly check in with it.  right now in particular because the life coaching training i'm participating in will be transitioning in about a month to a different aspect of the program.

because i want to connect this new adventurous phase of mine with the journaling part of my business, this paying attention gets me to begin thinking about how i want to implement this change { the 2nd part of this 2-parter....course correcting }.  so my question for you is...

what do you need to pay more attention to?

where do you need to hold up the mirror or, better yet, a magnifying glass in your life, in your job or your business, in your relationships, in your health in order to begin course correcting?

because when we tune in, it's these Soul whispers that ultimately guides and steer us along our path....if we choose to listen.

it's your turn.  get out your journal and write the heartwords that will help create a clearer picture for you to begin your course correcting.

[bctt tweet="In change there is power  ~Andy Cohen " username="kgracehowes"]

toodles, Grace

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Something new is brewing and you're gonna like it

 it's been a while hasn't it?

life. it gets you. and you have to deal in or check out.

#coopthedog and something new

for a while there circumstances had me checking into life hard and deep { we lost a family member in december } and everything else had to take a back seat so that i could support them and be supported myself as we planned for a thing we wished we didn't have to.

today, we're all still going thru the motions while also trying to pick up the millions pieces our lives got shattered into.

fresh perspective is what sorrowful events like this gives you.  when i got back home to my studio in january i took time to evaluate how i wanted this blog to exist, if even i wanted it to at all.

i started this blog back in 2007, or the iteration it was before i made it part of my business officially.  back then it was a place to showcase my art quilts and sell my hand dyed fabrics.  it has definitely evolved since then but, unfortunately for me, how i thought about it hadn't changed. this led to it becoming a chore and a hit and miss on when i posted.  no good right?

for the new year i made the decision not to blog anymore. i told my business mastermind group my decision and it felt good.  the pressure was off.  i could commit to just posting on insta { love that space!!!! }

but.....

i missed the sharing i did here, in this imperfect space i call my online home.

i had so compartmentalised myself, pushing what i did here into existing in a tiny, tiny space that it became claustrophobic to even think of coming here, let alone writing something and posting it.

now, after a brief time away, i'm beginning to think that i still need this space, but in a different way { that's the power of journaling ... it helps infuse fresh perspective } and i came away with 2 thoughts...

  • i realized that i needed to stop trying to be like those blogs i read.

  • i realized that i needed to stop trying to do things on my blog like those blogs i was trying to emulate.

they do their blog their way.  what i know now is i need not be so rigid in the how and the what i bring to this space because ....i've figured out my why.  phew!

{ p.s.watch this Soul Speak with Grace video to hear about my why }

i share this only to say that..........something new is brewing.

{ remember...fresh perspective }

Choose light and something new

in the above mini-episode of Soul Speak i talk about ..."on choosing light", cause ya know sometimes some things are just a slow dawning.

i'll be sharing a lot more videos with you { like my Soul Speaks }

...and sharing what i know about journaling and how fricking awesome it is { that's Journal Circle }

...and be more consistent in sending out the JLT Notes, my newsletter.

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but, but, but...the biggest way i'm authentically choosing to share AND step into my light { cause i know my why! } is thru my new and most passionate calling ... being a life coach  { see * below }.

journaling has always been a part of my life and sharing this awesome and powerful way to discover more of who YOU are is what i'm supposed to be doing.

and life coaching is...well it's who i am meant to be.

remember oprah's what i know for sure?  this is mine.  { cannot tell you how good it feels to say that out loud.  mmmmh! }

so how are you coming into this picture?

for one, there is the Journal Circle, my way to give back and gather with kindreds in community.  we come together on zoom for about an hour and nurture and support and love and journal and art together.  you'll need to register first and then you'll be automatically notified when the next one will take place.

right now it's free to join us in Circle. we're still growing so i'm trying to find the best times for repeating our journal jOY......once a month or every 2 weeks.  and ya know what.....i would love to have you join us.

plus, fill out the form below to join the JOY Love Tribe and begin receiving JLT Notes on a regular.  thanks for being here and for seeing me.  I hope to see much more of you in the coming months.

toodles,

Grace

btw....that cutie in the pic above is our dog cooper.  that face right?


* life coaching has fast become a passion of mine to be able to help women discover and dig deep into who they are in an authentic and supported way, to help find your joy.  right now i'm in training with kate swoboda of your courageous life and am loving this experience, this new adventure { holy smokes the girl goes deep! }.

one of the things we are now doing as trainees is to take on new outside clients.  i'll be offering my coaching services at a discounted rate while i'm in training.  if you find you're in need support around an issue in your life and want to test the coaching waters, i would love to help you gain clarity and focus and heart-centered wholeness.  find out more here.

your gifts & bad-assery {yup, i said it}

create a practice of recording even the boring and mundane bitsbecause these are a part of the life you live

~ jeanette leblanc ~

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i’m journaling out loud for 2 reasons: 1. to let you see how easy it is to begin a journaling practice and 2. to challenge you to commit to writing your heartwords daily.  JOIN ME.

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After listening to the book "Year of Yes" by Shonda Rhimes these last few days I am blown away by the realization of how many people both famous and regular ordinaries like me have this thing with hiding their light, Shonda Rhimes being one of them. Who the heck knew???? It just goes to show that you can never, ever judge a book by its front cover.

I mean really, look at me, forever in the shadows looking out and only letting the spotlight catch me ever so fleetingly. These last couple of years have been revealing to me in that I realize I won't melt or shrink or even die from exposure (haha). Seriously tho, I knew I wouldn't but the brain is a funny instrument in our lives in how it picks up so well on our insecurities and blows them all out of proportion. We have to work hard at seeing the other more positive side of things more often I think.

I've been figuring out and trying to answer this one question about me the last few years and listening to her book it felt wonderful knowing that I was able to so clearly state in that moment what mine are. Phew! This process has been hard and rocky and stagnant and exasperating had me flailing about at times but it's oh so exciting when I could finally hone in on my soul special gifts. Yes. Yes. Yes, Yes. Yes.

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what are your gifts?

what is it that only you have, that you get to share, that is the awesomeness of you?

if you don't know, your job, today, right now is to go on a quest to find out and proclaim it loudly, often & with intention.  your Soul demands it of you!

know why! cause only you have the gift of YOU.  nobody else is like you, nobody thinks like you do, nobody feels like you do.  know that you are special and be grateful for The Universe blessing you with your gifts, your powerful awesomeness. 

the corresponding mini episode on SOUL speak is about honing in on our Gifts and showing up with some serious bad-assery?  { listen to audio below or click here to watch video }

 
 

that’s it for now.

toodles,

G


want to read more of my daily snippets? click here

p.s.  i want to share with you a page from the daily om that speaks so beautifully about using your own unique gifts to express yourself and to share with your community.  enjoy the read.  http://bit.ly/dailyOmGifts