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a key decision you need to implement | part 6

the business diaries | part 6

{ i've been MIA for a bit with this series with our recent move cross country but happily i'm getting back on track with this post. stay tuned, there's more to come }

i've made a key decision in my business and it something I think you need to do as well {whether you have a solo business like me or not} 

it's something i've not done before but I am certainly gonna be doing a whole lot more of.  i've decided to begin to... 

celebrate little positive moments

 all those moments that occur as I build build my business day by day, minute by minute.

 
me at universal studios

when you work for yourself you wear many hats and because you wear all those hats, sometimes 2 at a time, there are many tasks that need to happen in a week in a day maybe even in an hour

if you're on a 9-to-5 job and something great happens you celebrate right?  you go for a drink with friends or dinner with your significant other; your boss singles you out and gives high praise or a "good job ______"; you get positive work review or even a special commendation.

but, as a small business owner, a solo entrepreneur, we don't do too much celebrating.

why is it good to pat yourself on the back? 

celebrating our accomplishments: ....is good for our health.  

it raises our dopamine levels { the feel good stuff } which in turn boosts our focus, our drive and our concentration

it allows for a moment to be mindful and to savour that win ....is a cool high-five you can give yourself

it pushes you to continue that forward momentum

it is a way to recognize and be thankful and, the best part I think

it helps you FIND THE JOY in your work

earlier this week, listening to tara gentile's interview on the being boss podcast made me realize that I need to celebrate the little things that occur in my business, those little accomplishments that have me going yay!

in my desk chair or doing a jig  { like above } when something wonderful happens or I suddenly became unstuck from the hours of work I've been putting in on a particular task.

what am I celebrating?  finally letting go of perfection.  and I mean really letting go { something I call "being a cappy brain " }.

capricorns prefer everything to be perfect.  we love doing the research to the n'th degree before making a decision because, of course, the decision has to be perfect, which in turn means the outcome will then be perfect as well.  really?

h uh.  my new mantra,

DONE is good enough

ast week I was impelled to take time off between tasks since the whiplash I gave myself { no kidding y'all, will explain in another post }.

this week I made it a point to remember to take off my cappy brain, put her in a drawer, close said drawer and get back to work.  

I know now that she stifles my growth and invariably stops me from moving forward and completing projects.no more miss cappy!  i'm headed in the direction of finishing things so that I can have my little moments of celebration.

what about you?  what little moment or accomplishment can you celebrate today? leave me a comment below or shoot me an email.

let's CELEBRATE OUR HIGH FIVE MOMENTS together.

toodles, G

the mirror of self discovery

ready for a story? once upon a time....there was a little girl who was very afraid of shining her own light.

she kept everything to herself. she told no one of the wonderful creative things she got up to.   { she really enjoyed being creative } but still . . . she didn't share any of her accomplishments with anyone. she thought sharing things also meant that she was on the hook for completing them...perfectly. and what if she didn't finish? she couldn't take the scrutiny.

i'm sure you can guess that that girl was me.  i refused to share anything, sometimes with my own husband, because i didn't want accountability.

i have to tell you that that's the strangest thing because i'm now in a group, a mastermind group of sorts, that is all about sharing and being accountable.  

we've been meeting for 10 months and i know now that i really could not do without them.  they really help me to see the bigger picture, they help me reframe and come up with new ideas if needed, they hold me accountable for the things i say i'm going to do and i now i've always got an "no matter what I got your back girl".

in The Creative View, episode 5 we talk about the hashtag #failureisnotenough.  in it i discussed my fear of success.  

i could always handle failure because for me it  that meant if i dropped the ball or a task or endeavour failed i could step into back into the shadows, no harn]m no foul.  failure was never a real issue for me.

success, however, was my achilles heel.  i didn't know what to do with it, how to work with it when it happened.  

success in my head meant that everybody would look at me { remember no shining light upon me } and i would have to show up, do and continue to show up.  i would have to show me.

what i've gathered today, and why i chose to write this blog post, is that i am now okay with showing up.

on my daily walks i always try to catch up on podcasts i'm subscribed to.  in today's podcast walk jaime ridler interviews elise cripe about sharing oneself.  

and it's something jamie said that pinged the idea for this post "....as soon as I announce that I'm going to do something i'm gonna have to follow through".  

a whole torrent of thoughts started piling up in my head as i contemplated that one sentence.  my issue before becoming a part of my mastermind group was follow through.  

here, i would have to follow through over and over and over again and that meant I couldn't easily slip back into the shadows.

thing is, what i really didn't grasp before was that by being held accountable you really do learn and grow,  you gain clarity from a different perspective.  

you get insight from those you trust.   you get support from those who will catch you when you falter.  and, best of all, you get kudos and praise and massive high-fives when you succeed.

success DOES have its good points after all.  having the spotlight on you ain't all that bad.  try it.  get out of your comfort zone, step onto your stage and

S H I N E  Y O UR  L I G H T .

G

no more hiding out

clarity

so i'm doing it again.  hiding.  you know....not shining my light.  i know the signs.  nothing gets completed.  tasks are listed and worked on but nothing gets crossed off and i stop showing up online on a regular.  PLUS, it came out in my journal.

i don't know bout you but journaling is my go to for de-stressing { stream of consciousness writing always helps me tap into all sorts of things i'm either not aware of or don't want to face }.

over the past 20+ years i've built up quite a healthy journaling habit, most of it is just recording the events of my days, lil tidbits about me and my family's shenanigans during the week.  

but i have to tell you, sometimes i get this overpowering need to write my thoughts out and this was one of those times.

i wasn't aware on a conscious level what was going on with me but you know how sometimes as we're moving throughout our day we get the feeling that something is off?

that's what i was experiencing.  i was going thru the motions of my day but my head wasn't fully engaged.  although i knew this, i had decided to push thru cause i still had lots of tasks to get accomplished.

not a good decision right? a few days ago .....

all.  engines.  stopped.

my brain went into overload and, strangely enough i found myself tearing up talking to my hubby about a plane ticket.  yup.

twas a strange time and a strange reason to lose it.

got off the phone with him and tried walking around a bit to try to clear my head.

nada.  that didn't work.  

so instead i grabbed my journal, sat on my bed and began writing. at first i was mad at myself and it comes out on the page but as that heightened emotion subsides, my writing heads into journaling my heartwords.  

and this is where the truth of my angst is revealed.

B R E A T H.

it is said that one of the most stressful times you can experience is going thru a big move.  

uh duh!  not only are we moving house but we are moving across the country to the beautiful pacific northwest { whoops! i know for some of you this may come as a complete shock.  call me and we can chat *wink* }.

now the move itself is a good thing { a fantastic, exciting thing for our family truth be told } but my journaling showed me that the stuff and time and energy it takes to pull off this move while still living your life and, in my case, launching a product, not to mention a new website....all of this was getting to me.

one of the easiest things for me to do when this happens is to hunker down in my comfortable spot { inside my house ......that i'm trying to sell btw } and DO NOTHING.

not a good plan.

so this time, now that i'm aware of what's happening i'm going to implement a few things.

first, i usually journal 3-5 times per week. with this move happening, i'm gonna journal every day, a check in of sorts so i can catch things before they go awry again.  

if i don't have a story or event to recall them i'm gonna ask myself 3 questions i recently heard on a podcast { for the life can't remember which one, sorry }.  those questions are:

what worked today?      

what didn't work?       

what's next?

second, i'm going to realistically schedule my tasks for the day, the week.  to get things done i realised that i've overloaded my tasks lists trying to stay ahead of the game.  

no more.  i can only do so much and allowing for down time is essential for a seamless as possible next 3 months of change-your-life activity

third......i'm gonna elicit your help.  yes YOU.   if you're not seeing me more regularly in person or you think i've gone a bit quiet online ...hit me up.  no seriously!!!  

send me a text, a private fb message or even my fb page saying grace...what's up girl?   or "you've gone a bit quiet there....all is good?".  

remember i tend to hide back in the corner where no one can see me but from which place i can still observe the world passing by.

don't let me do it!  please.  

make me own up, show up or crack up over a good joke or story of yours.  help me keep my light shining.  i'm gonna do all i can my end.

thanks y'all G