Stepping up to the plate and swinging

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In any given moment we have 2 choices ...to step forward into growth, or back into safety ~ Abraham Maslow

in one of my coach training sessions recently where I was the client I got some serious clarity around something that has been an ongoing issue for me for a while, one that you've heard me talk about here on the blog.

....shining my light.  I have struggled with this for a long as I can remember.

now don't get me wrong, I WANT to be out there, to step up to the plate and swing and hit the hell outta that ball. and I mean an outta-the-ball-park kinda swing.  but what stops me every single time is that same onerous thing that hangs me up every time....shining my light.

my coach asked me a question and, after a little pondering, it felt like a ton of bricks had fallen on my head. thunk!  the shining my light thing is not present in Grace, the person who lives her life every day, solid in knowing who she is.

she fricking rocks the light!  

she is very comfortable shining as bright as she can, at any time.  this issue only comes into play these days when she, when I put on my Grace in business hat.

duh!  that was such a revelation to me.  the 2 Grace's are in so very different realms.  

now granted, I've worked on myself  { and my self confidence } a lot over the last 20+ years, so much so that being the center of attention and doing my thang just doesn't bother me anymore. { phew!  that's good to know cause boy was I a wallflower }.

what I didn't know, until i had that discussion with my coach last week, was that there were 2 parts of me.  I truly thought they were one and the same.  that the confident, authentic me was the same person I was in business.

now don't get me wrong, being authentic and real in business are personal core values I bring to the table every day.

what I came away with from that session is that business Grace sometimes most times avoids the light.  what I also know is that business Grace has gotta step up to the damn plate and just swing.

you ever just get so tired of the battle waging inside of you that you just wanna say, eff it...gimme the bat and let me just take a swing?

yup, that's how I'm feeling right about now.  because sometimes that's what the moment calls for.

enough bullshitting around, enough studying and researching and making everything perfect so the outcome could be perfect as well.  

STEP UP TO THE PLATE....and just swing already!

stop waiting for the ultimate time, the right circumstances, getting all the fricking ducks in a row only to find out one is missing and then wanting to hide out some more { this one is so me }

do it!  swing.

...let go of not knowing the outcome.

...let go of wanting perfection { it's overrated ya know }.

...let go of wishing and wanting and never doing.

...let go of the rumble deep down inside that happens every time you think about setting foot outside your comfort zone 

...let go of the doubt and the anxiety

...let go of the thoughts of embarrassment of IT not happening { or IT happening and failing ....yeh, that one too }

...let go of control { this one is H a r d }

it's all good. you know why? cause you can have a do over.

heck, you can have as many do overs as you like...it's your baby, your thing to birth, your thing to bring light to, your turn to shine.

SHINE baby, shine.

cause that's what biz Grace is going to do.  watch me glow. 

remember, you got this. { no really, you do }

take care,

Grace


p.s. the next Soul Speak with Grace minisode that also talks about this subject is up. Check it out here.

did you know....

that in order to help you swing the heck outta that bat you'll need to bring on the SELF love?  yup, you do. 

for a limited time i'll be offering to all JOY Love Tribe members a 25% discount on my SELF Love Kit and it's companion e-course, 5 Days of SELF-Love.  the course is a beautiful process to help you turn some Love inward { with compassion } so you can step up and swing!

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Something new is brewing and you're gonna like it

 it's been a while hasn't it?

life. it gets you. and you have to deal in or check out.

#coopthedog and something new

for a while there circumstances had me checking into life hard and deep { we lost a family member in december } and everything else had to take a back seat so that i could support them and be supported myself as we planned for a thing we wished we didn't have to.

today, we're all still going thru the motions while also trying to pick up the millions pieces our lives got shattered into.

fresh perspective is what sorrowful events like this gives you.  when i got back home to my studio in january i took time to evaluate how i wanted this blog to exist, if even i wanted it to at all.

i started this blog back in 2007, or the iteration it was before i made it part of my business officially.  back then it was a place to showcase my art quilts and sell my hand dyed fabrics.  it has definitely evolved since then but, unfortunately for me, how i thought about it hadn't changed. this led to it becoming a chore and a hit and miss on when i posted.  no good right?

for the new year i made the decision not to blog anymore. i told my business mastermind group my decision and it felt good.  the pressure was off.  i could commit to just posting on insta { love that space!!!! }

but.....

i missed the sharing i did here, in this imperfect space i call my online home.

i had so compartmentalised myself, pushing what i did here into existing in a tiny, tiny space that it became claustrophobic to even think of coming here, let alone writing something and posting it.

now, after a brief time away, i'm beginning to think that i still need this space, but in a different way { that's the power of journaling ... it helps infuse fresh perspective } and i came away with 2 thoughts...

  • i realized that i needed to stop trying to be like those blogs i read.
  • i realized that i needed to stop trying to do things on my blog like those blogs i was trying to emulate.

they do their blog their way.  what i know now is i need not be so rigid in the how and the what i bring to this space because ....i've figured out my why.  phew!

{ p.s.watch this Soul Speak with Grace video to hear about my why }

i share this only to say that..........something new is brewing.

{ remember...fresh perspective }

Choose light and something new

in the above mini-episode of Soul Speak i talk about ..."on choosing light", cause ya know sometimes some things are just a slow dawning.

i'll be sharing a lot more videos with you { like my Soul Speaks }

...and sharing what i know about journaling and how fricking awesome it is { that's Journal Circle }

...and be more consistent in sending out the JLT Notes { aka the old Updates & Happenings newsletter }.

but, but, but...the biggest way i'm authentically choosing to share AND step into my light { cause i know my why! } is thru my new and most passionate calling ... being a life coach  { see * below }.

journaling has always been a part of my life and sharing this awesome and powerful way to discover more of who YOU are is what i'm supposed to be doing.

and life coaching is...well it's who i am meant to be.

remember oprah's what i know for sure?  this is mine.  { cannot tell you how good it feels to say that out loud.  mmmmh! }

so how are you coming into this picture?

for one, there is the Journal Circle, my way to give back and gather with kindreds in community.  we come together on zoom for about an hour and nurture and support and love and journal and art together.  you'll need to register first and then you'll be automatically notified when the next one will take place.

right now it's free to join us in Circle. we're still growing so i'm trying to find the best times for repeating our journal jOY......once a month or every 2 weeks.  and ya know what.....i would love to have you join us.

plus, fill out the form below to join the JOY Love Tribe and begin receiving JLT Notes on a regular.  thanks for being here and for seeing me.  I hope to see much more of you in the coming months.

toodles,

Grace

btw....that cutie in the pic above is our dog cooper.  that face right?


* life coaching has fast become a passion of mine to be able to help women discover and dig deep into who they are in an authentic and supported way, to help find your joy.  right now i'm in training with kate swoboda of your courageous life and am loving this experience, this new adventure { holy smokes the girl goes deep! }.

one of the things we are now doing as trainees is to take on new outside clients.  i'll be offering my coaching services at a discounted rate while i'm in training.  if you find you're in need support around an issue in your life and want to test the coaching waters, i would love to help you gain clarity and focus and heart-centered wholeness.  find out more here.

a key decision you need to implement | part 6

the business diaries | part 6

{ i've been MIA for a bit with this series with our recent move cross country but happily i'm getting back on track with this post. stay tuned, there's more to come }

i've made a key decision in my business and it something I think you need to do as well {whether you have a solo business like me or not} 

it's something i've not done before but I am certainly gonna be doing a whole lot more of.  i've decided to begin to... 

celebrate little positive moments

 all those moments that occur as I build build my business day by day, minute by minute.

 
me at universal studios

when you work for yourself you wear many hats and because you wear all those hats, sometimes 2 at a time, there are many tasks that need to happen in a week in a day maybe even in an hour

if you're on a 9-to-5 job and something great happens you celebrate right?  you go for a drink with friends or dinner with your significant other; your boss singles you out and gives high praise or a "good job ______"; you get positive work review or even a special commendation.

but, as a small business owner, a solo entrepreneur, we don't do too much celebrating.

why is it good to pat yourself on the back? 

celebrating our accomplishments: ....is good for our health.  

it raises our dopamine levels { the feel good stuff } which in turn boosts our focus, our drive and our concentration

it allows for a moment to be mindful and to savour that win ....is a cool high-five you can give yourself

it pushes you to continue that forward momentum

it is a way to recognize and be thankful and, the best part I think

it helps you FIND THE JOY in your work

earlier this week, listening to tara gentile's interview on the being boss podcast made me realize that I need to celebrate the little things that occur in my business, those little accomplishments that have me going yay!

in my desk chair or doing a jig  { like above } when something wonderful happens or I suddenly became unstuck from the hours of work I've been putting in on a particular task.

what am I celebrating?  finally letting go of perfection.  and I mean really letting go { something I call "being a cappy brain " }.

capricorns prefer everything to be perfect.  we love doing the research to the n'th degree before making a decision because, of course, the decision has to be perfect, which in turn means the outcome will then be perfect as well.  really?

h uh.  my new mantra,

DONE is good enough

ast week I was impelled to take time off between tasks since the whiplash I gave myself { no kidding y'all, will explain in another post }.

this week I made it a point to remember to take off my cappy brain, put her in a drawer, close said drawer and get back to work.  

I know now that she stifles my growth and invariably stops me from moving forward and completing projects.no more miss cappy!  i'm headed in the direction of finishing things so that I can have my little moments of celebration.

what about you?  what little moment or accomplishment can you celebrate today? leave me a comment below or shoot me an email.

let's CELEBRATE OUR HIGH FIVE MOMENTS together.

toodles, G